So What’s On The Plate?

Do you ever feel like you must be the only person on Earth going through a sticky situation? No matter how hard you try, things seem to backfire and your world falls apart? Yeah...me too. Been there...still live there sometimes, but for the most part, I've learned to take these life blemishes and turn them into something good. If you're living in a moment that doesn't fit you well...you have the power to change it - it's your life! 

Now if I told this to myself of 4 years ago, I probably would have rolled my eyes and thought this girl has no clue what I'm going through. But that's the thing about hindsight, it's 20/20 and you can't change it, but you can learn from it. As a Mama of three young kids struggling in an unhealthy relationship, I didn't see happiness in sight and I knew that was trickling down into my children's lives as well. Let's be honest, Mama's attitude is what sets the mood of the house. It's the biggest pair of shoes you'll ever wear which is why it's the best reward you'll ever feel! If you're feeling lost or just want some comradery, you're in the right spot! Let's leverage my useful lessons learned to make your hardships a little less hard!

Below is a quick and dirty list of topics that I'll be navigating with you! You'll be sure to find insight to help you start living the life you've always imagined. All of our visions are different, no doubt about that, but as humans, fulfilling your passion ultimately fulfills your soul which emenates to all those around you.

Interested? Curious? I would be too!!

You're going to find that I touch on a lot of topics that are all interrelated between healthier living, prioritizing your wellbeing, positively influencing others, activities that connect family, and how to grab a hold of what you imagined your life to be! I will admit that life hasn't gone as planned, but every pebble I stumbled over was a lesson learned that was put in my back pocket. I can clearly see the path I want to follow as I'm walking right down the middle now. There's nobody in my way, except for myself, so I've learned to change how I approach my aspirations. These are all the wins that I am going to share with you! I want to be helpful to you and provide you with useful insight that will actually impact your life for the better. As a Mom, life can be exhausting and it can be easy to get down on yourself because you're constantly comparing yourself to others. I know this, I lived this moment, and I also lived the moment where I realized that what's important to me is not what's important to those I'm comparing myself to. So why am I chasing someone else's dream?? Good question, right?

During times of COVID, when things got weird with the solitude of lock downs, my children, along with the rest of the world, felt the wrath of this sad environment. Passion and Purpose weren't even in the vocabulary. Endless days of never leaving the house, not understanding what was happening, and being confined from friends and family weighed on all of our hearts. My boys began asking me about their purpose in life. This was a hard day to swallow because it had not dawned on me until then, that the little minds in my house were only sponging from me, opposed to living the normal that we were used to.

While on the face of it, that sounds ok as a Mama, but when you consider the environment we were operating in, the vivid scenery my children lived was very bright to me. They saw me get up early to work from home and shove in as much as I could before virtual "school" began at 8:30am. I then spent the next 4-6 hours teaching my kids what they weren't learning from their virtual academy and helping them with homework and projects. In the middle of the day, I had to jump over and put my cafeteria hat on and get to cooking food for three children...while helping them connect to their Zoom meeting....and me somehow trying to work all at the same time. 

After virtual school was done for the day, I had to get back online and work the rest of the afternoon and evening to catch up from what I missed during the day. I also had to get dinner sorted out with my chef hat and then I had to manage the clean up as well (who are we kidding, the cleaning crew hat fell off a lot of nights, LOL). And the laundry hat fell behind the washer somewhere... I'm a single Mom and I have to sort it out, there is no other option. But I'm also very familiar with something I like to call a "single, married parent", meaning, you're married, but life operates like you're single so the entire load rests on your shoulders. I know this situation too well...I've been there too, and I feel you! IT'S HARD. 

So after the kids went to bed, back to my computer I went to try and finish or get a head start for tomorrow. I think I was averaging about 4 hours of sleep a night. I day dreamed of someone handing me a hotel key and telling me to go sleep for 24 hours straight. My children watched this day repeat for so many days it hurt to count. I know I'm one of many that lived this exhausting life with no end in sight.

So why was I in shock when they were questioning their own purpose in life? I wasn't taking care of myself at all during this time and my children saw it. At one point, my oldest told me he didn't want to get married and have children because it was too much work. These are the comments that make you think. Think about where you are in life, what you envisioned for yourself, and where you want to be. While none of us could have ever imagined life as it is right now, COVID's not an excuse to drain myself and not take care of me. The situation is hard, but how you approach life is determined by you!

Life can be rough, but you can get rough too! I'm going to give all my hacks, all my lessons learned, all my wins, and all my fails so you can see you are not alone. My passion, that I've chosen to follow, is writing and helping others. I know there's a countless number of people out there that are hiking a similar path to me and I want to leverage all that I can to help make your life easier and healthier! 

All my troubles stemmed from my approach, my perspective that was placed on me by others. I want to help you break free from that world and start living the life that makes YOU happy. Along the way, I'm going to give you so much insight that you can pick and chose what you apply and have tricks in your back pocket when things don't go as you wish. From reviewing health and family related products to giving you ideas for family getaways to helping you become the person you want to be - this is what you will take away from reading my blog. I hope you chose to jump in with both feet first, but if you want to dabble a toe, that's ok too. I'm looking forward to our conversations ahead and I encourage you to reach out to me if you have anything particular you are interested in me covering!

Cheers to today friends!